“And then he got mad for no reason!”
“Sometimes I just get anxious…”
How many times have we heard statements like this where feelings are presented as something that simply exist outside of reason? Outside of context? As obstacles to our happiness? What if instead we started to look at them as important indicators that can tell us if we are moving in the right direction or not?
At some point in history, strength became paired with stoicism. Leadership, aristocracy, masculinity, and intelligence all became associated with the suppression of emotions. I even came across this little study demonstrating that the expression of anger and sadness will cause others to perceive you as being more poor. But are emotions truly bad?
If you’re a regular visitor to this blog, I’m going to assume that you are someone who has found value in listening to and developing your intuition. But you simply cannot develop intuitively while dismissing your emotions.
Growing up, I was taught that emotions needed to be controlled; that emotions annoyed others; that emotions were a weakness that bullies would exploit. As an adult, I found myself staying in situations for far longer than I should have. Basically it would take a “smoking gun” type of situation for me to leave a job or a relationship because “everything was fine”, I just felt anxious and stressed all the time “for no reason”.
We often hear the advice to get in touch with our emotions, but what does that really mean? It means you need to listen to your emotions and to actually start trusting them. Once I started doing that, my life drastically changed for the better. Not only did I find myself moving in directions that had far better outcomes for me, but I also saw the end of repeating patterns that had been haunting me for some time.
I put out a new video today that goes into depth on how to do this. Specifically, if you feel like you’re someone that needs to “learn how to let go”, this is the video for you!